The MOST Important Thing To Know When You Apply For A Job

I'm writing this on my birthday, looking back on 16 years in strength and conditioning. I've worked in the private sector and at the college level across the Power Five, Ivy League, and mid-major conferences. Through all the moves and milestones, one thing has never changed: every opportunity I’ve had came from relationships.

Yes, I was qualified. I worked hard, studied the science, coached the reps. But none of those jobs came without someone vouching for me. Whether it was an advisor, a coach, or a former colleague—someone picked up the phone or sent an email and said, “You need to talk to this person.” That’s how this field works. And honestly, that’s how most careers in high-trust professions work.

It wasn’t just me. I’ve seen countless jobs filled before they were even posted. Openings that were technically available but unofficially spoken for. And I’ve also seen people earn roles not because of a perfect resume, but because they had already proven themselves in the trenches—as an intern, a GA, a volunteer—doing the work without the title. We didn’t need to guess what they could do. We already knew.

That’s not a flaw in the system. That’s how trust is built. But here’s the catch: too many people forget. They forget how they got their break. They forget someone made a call for them. And when it’s their turn to bring someone up, they block the path instead.

It’s not about bitterness—this is just the truth. When you benefit from a system of relationships and reputation, don’t suddenly pretend it's all about formal applications and job boards once you're in. If someone has earned your trust, and they've already shown they can do the job, help them get their shot.

So, remember this: your internships, your relationships, and your reputation are your interview. Make the most of them. And when it’s your turn to open a door, don’t shut it behind you. Pay it forward, because you didn’t get here alone.